A child’s self-esteem is essential. In today’s society, self-esteem is a challenge for anyone. At Lighthouse School, we believe in setting our preschoolers up for success by starting self-esteem development early. While this can be a difficult topic to help guide your children, we desire to come alongside parents in teaching this vital attribute.

To do this, we have put together this blog to understand what self-esteem is, the factors that affect self-esteem, and the signs of positive and negative self-esteem.

Understanding Self-Esteem in Preschoolers: What is Self-Esteem?

When we talk about self-esteem, we’re referring to how children perceive and value themselves. It encompasses their beliefs about their abilities, worth, and overall self-image. In the world of preschoolers, self-esteem lays the foundation for their emotional well-being and sets the stage for future success in various aspects of life.

A Few Factors That Play a Role in Preschoolers’ Self-esteem 

Preschoolers’ self-esteem is shaped by their family environment, peer interactions, and teachers. In families, love, support, and encouragement are crucial for nurturing self-esteem. Positive interactions with family members, along with praise for their efforts, boost their sense of self-worth.

Parents and Family

As children grow, parents may find it is not often that their children willingly face new social experiences. Children will encounter both positive moments of inclusion and play, as well as rejection and disappointment. Peer interactions are increasingly important during preschool years. Positive experiences with friends help children develop social skills and feel accepted, while negative experiences like teasing or exclusion can harm their self-esteem. As parents and caregivers, we can support them in every social interaction and encourage their confidence

Teachers

Teachers play a vital role in fostering self-esteem in preschoolers. By providing a safe and inclusive learning environment, such as those at Lighthouse School, teachers encourage children to explore their abilities, celebrate accomplishments, and learn from mistakes. This guidance helps children develop a positive self-perception and belief in their capabilities. It’s reassuring for parents to know their child is in the care of trained, supportive adults.

Understanding these factors highlights the significant influence caregivers, parents, and educators have on preschoolers’ self-esteem. By being mindful of these influences, we can create an environment that promotes healthy self-esteem and empowers our children to thrive.

Signs of Positive Self-Esteem in Preschoolers

Positive self-esteem in preschool children does not always look alike. This is why we’ve outlined a few of the signs of positive self-esteem that can be seen in preschoolers. If you notice these signs in your child, then you more than likely have a kiddo with positive self-esteem. 

Developing a Sense of Self-Worth

Children with positive self-esteem develop a healthy sense of self-worth. They recognize and appreciate their unique qualities, talents, and strengths. They understand that they are valuable individuals deserving of love, respect, and kindness. This sense of self-worth forms the foundation for their confidence and resilience as they navigate the world.

Displaying Empathy and Kindness

When children feel confident and are feeling good, it shows in their social interactions. Children with a secure sense of self are more likely to display empathy and kindness towards others. By nurturing their self-worth, they develop patience and appreciation to support the well-being of those around them. 

Willingness to Try New Activities

Children with high self-esteem exhibit adventurousness and a willingness to explore new things. They approach unfamiliar activities or challenges with enthusiasm and curiosity, embracing the opportunity to learn and grow. They understand that making mistakes is okay and view setbacks as valuable learning experiences.

Ability to Handle Mistakes Positively

Children with positive self-esteem have the resilience to handle mistakes and setbacks constructively. Instead of becoming discouraged, they view mistakes as opportunities for growth. They are more likely to persevere, problem-solve, and seek help when needed, understanding that setbacks do not define their worth or abilities.

Confidence in Expressing Thoughts and Feelings

Preschoolers with positive self-esteem are more likely to express their thoughts, feelings, and needs confidently. They feel secure sharing their ideas and opinions, knowing their voice matters. Whether speaking up during circle time or engaging in conversations with peers, their self-assurance is evident.

At Lighthouse School, we have noticed that observing the social psychology surrounding children’s self-esteem reassures us that our efforts to build their self-esteem are working. By fostering an environment that encourages their confidence, resilience, self-worth, and empathy, we help shape the next generation of confident and compassionate individuals.

Signs of low self-esteem in Preschoolers 

Just as there are signs of positive self-esteem to watch for in our preschoolers, there are also indications of low self-esteem that parents and caregivers should be aware of. Behaviors that may seem like shyness or quietness might be signs of low self-esteem. Recognizing these signs early allows for timely support and positivity from loved ones and may even help foster a stronger parent-child relationship.

Lack of Confidence

If your child hesitates or is reluctant to participate in activities, share their ideas, or express themselves openly at home or in social settings, they may be doubting their abilities and self-worth. This is a great opportunity to engage with them, ask about their thoughts, and affirm that their opinions and feelings are important. 

It is important to note that while this can be a lack of confidence and self-esteem, often young children go through a shyness phase that makes them not want to participate. Continue encouraging them to participate through their lack of confidence.

Negative Self-Talk

Preschoolers with low self-esteem might frequently put themselves down or doubt their abilities, using phrases like “I can’t do it” or “I’m not good enough.” You can counter these by saying, “You may not be able to do it yet, but let’s practice together.” Using language they understand helps build their confidence and shows that you’re on their side. Build them up with extra words of encouragement if they are talking negatively. 

Social Withdrawal

Choosing to play alone or hide during social outings with peers can be a sign of low self-esteem. If your child struggles to make friends, they may just need a little encouragement and support from you. Talking with them about their feelings and asking their preschool teachers for insights into their social interactions can be very helpful. Teachers can often provide valuable advice to benefit both you and your child.

Strategies for Building Positive Self-Esteem

Every interaction and activity with our preschoolers is a chance to nurture their self-esteem and help them become confident, resilient individuals. By offering love, support, encouragement, and a safe space to explore their abilities, we empower them to embrace their uniqueness, handle challenges with confidence, and value their self-worth.

These formative years are crucial for helping children grow into confident young adults who feel loved and supported in their decision-making. Guiding them through challenges and encouraging creative problem-solving will improve their resilience, which will benefit them throughout their lives.

If you have questions or are interested in learning more about Lighthouse School, reach out to us! We would love to talk more with you about our program and our passion for developing self-esteem in early childhood.